tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24739721.post8635723221589698247..comments2023-10-20T12:36:55.317-04:00Comments on Trauma Treatment for Children: Are Restorative Tasks Punishments in Disguise?Patricia Wilcox, LCSWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07444420374748925069noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24739721.post-23741853174663755882013-11-29T16:12:33.161-05:002013-11-29T16:12:33.161-05:00Whatever happened to owning the consequences of ou...Whatever happened to owning the consequences of our actions and teaching the child to do the same? Adolescents being who they are - naturally exploring limits and needing boundaries - will have no motivation to change negative behavior if there are no consequences to it; their choice, not the adult's.Marknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24739721.post-60395924519742806742008-12-07T21:11:00.000-05:002008-12-07T21:11:00.000-05:00you have far too much confidence in the internal g...you have far too much confidence in the internal goodness of a person. The restorative approach might work if the person truly wants to change, but many do not. They love themselves too much. Their basis for choosing right or wrong is based on whatever they think will satisfy their needs of the moment. What would they rather do...tell the truth or tell a lie? The answer is whatever gets them what they want. The restorative approach will work in some cases (when the kid truly sees that his behaviors have been wrong and wants to change) but they. do. not. work. on kids that do not see that they need to change. <BR/>I've heard people say that statistics have shown that negative consequences have little affect on people. Since when do statistics trump common sense? Who are we kidding? What is going to motivate a person to stay away from a hot stove? Encouragement and Restoration or negative consequences?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24739721.post-36615081302015509072007-10-03T21:03:00.000-04:002007-10-03T21:03:00.000-04:00This also means, as you have discussed in previous...This also means, as you have discussed in previous posts, that the adults in the situation must be the "bigger person" and must admit their own vulnerabilities and shortcomings. They must let go of their own anger or sense of "fairness" when the child acts out so that they can stop looking for punishment and start looking for healing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com